by Rachel Talley
Accepting our perfection and divinity is part of our path to healing and happiness. Watch below. Have an AMAZING weekend! Be LOVE...... for that is all you already are!!
Today I wanted to talk about blessing ways and how they can be used, not only in pregnancy, but at any transformation and transition time in your life. A BLESSING WAY is a Native American ceremony that has been used as a safe space for healing and celebrating the coming of a new life.
During this sacred ceremony, a mother with the support of friends and family, can open herself to the challenges and joys that lie before her as she approaches birthing and mothering. In this setting, the mother-to-be can gain the confidence, power and love she needs to move forward in her new role with peace and understanding.
Pregnancy is a birth and cleansing time where all physical and emotional toxicity are being purged from the system so as to not pass any unwanted or unneeded ill health onto your fetus. A blessingway moves and shifts a woman’s energy in such a profound way that she feels a draw to listen more to herself and her own intuition in the future weeks before the birth and the months that follow after. By listening to her own inner knowing, she then is guided through the steps to create a beautiful pregnancy and birth experience.
You don’t have to be a Native American to be able to hold a blessingway for you or a loved one. The ceremony, in and of itself, is designed is a very meaningful and fulfilling experience for the mother to be while respecting her own personal beliefs.
Blessingways truly are a transformative experience where one communes with the Divine within and outside of themselves. Each women gleans new insights and inspirations from the experience that can bring more happiness and bliss to her life.
Click the link below to read more about blessing ways outside the birth arena.
Below is another article about The Birth Ritual of the Hopi Indians. It's a beautiful story. Take the time to read it.
I believe the lack of ritual and ceremony regarding conception, pregnancy and birth is currently negatively affecting our future generations. With ritual and ceremony, we find a place where one feels supported and loved along with finding healing and hope. These opportunities to unite friends and family as we change, grow and progress in our world can be invaluable to our own health and happiness and integration of the changes we are making.
My blessing way with my Mabel, 4 years ago, was one of my most memorable experiences. It was an atmosphere where I felt, though bringing into our family this new little life was a bit scary, that I was supported by all and was shown how powerful I really am through that love, compassion and understanding. Click the link below to read more about my blessing way.
Lastly, below is a book which is all about blessing ways and a CD with some healing, beautiful music for your blessing way.
Trauma is a subject you'll find I talk a lot about on here. Birth trauma can set the stage for how we choose to perceive and integrate love in our world. We all come here longing to be and experience love while in a physical body. Whatever we feel during gestation and then at the time of birth and onto the first weeks, months and years of our lives, imprints and distills itself into our systems as love. Though in actuality, we soon learn as adults that the traumas we felt as children weren't love at all but rather perspectives and ideas we carry about us and the world around us.
Once the system recognizes that the traumatic sensations and feelings are not really love, our system then sets out to feel and understand love. It the proceeds to replay the same patterns over and over again. It does this so we can have trigger points to stimulate those untrue thought patterns of what we've been taught love looks like and dispel the lies that we carry that are no longer serving us.
Long ago, when I saw how I was replaying life patterns over and over again, even though I was surprised each and every time because those life's lessons can feel VERY hard at times, I wanted to know if I could heal the pain that I was carrying. I have worked in the emotional/energy healing world for 12 years now and found rather quickly in my search that, yes indeed, you could heal EVERYTHING!
Most people don't want to buy that belief. It's ok....they don't have to. I like believing that I have the ability to help heal not only my physical body but my emotional/psychological body as well. I knew I had many traumatic experiences as I child that I needed healing from and felt ECSTATIC when I realized that I could heal anything within myself that I wanted. What an empowering thought for me!
I starting doing several things to help in my healing.....going to retreats, sitting in ceremonies, working with medicine men and shaman, reading and educating myself on the REAL benefits of alternative healing. I was shocked.....really, to begin with. I thought so much of what was being done back then was just strange and abnormal. I quickly learned that the effects of loving yourself enough to try and heal......that not only did you release and let go of old baggage.......but I found new and deeper levels of understanding, insights and peace I'd never felt before. It was and still is a mind blowing yet subtly magnificent way to find wholeness.
Read the article below so as to understand the emotional/sensational process a fetus might go through in the birth process.....And read about one women's experience to help heal herself from her own birth trauma.
"Recently I had encountered a spiritual talk on Spiritual Rebirther called Minood. A very interesting topic as it relates to birth. Though I did not sign up for the workshop. Later found out from a lady who attended the rebirth session...."
Another great article below which shows the link between emotional traumas and physical ailments. Please READ!
I have spent the last 10 years working out my own traumas, whether birth related or otherwise, and I have helped many others heal themselves from their own pain as well. You can read more about EMOTIONAL HEALING on my page.
Also, I will be putting together a rebirthing ceremony, along with a breath work ceremony, sometimes in the next month or so. I will be posting it on my website so check back! You might want to consider joining us in a healing retreat that is happening in just 2 weeks. You can read more about it at SHIFTINGTOSOLACE. It will be quite the AMAZING experience for all involved. I have no doubt. Read the information below for more details.
I'm a big fan of sunbathing. I always have been. I believe the sun and the nutrients it provides the body are very needed. Vitamin D specifically is a VERY needed nutrient for the human body. Our main source of Vitamin D is from the sun. But.....there are other ways you can get Vitamin D as well. I'll talk about that below.
I believe in Moms. I believe in babies. What I do not believe in is the systems or peoples that in any way tells a women how, when and where is best for her to birth her baby. To think that we have any right to do so is ignorant and destructive in many forms.
A woman's body is built to have a child. Babies bodies are built perfectly for birth. I know, we have all kinds of doctors and specialists stating that some women just CAN'T have babies via the vaginal route. I don't buy it. I've seen too much. I've seen tiny tiny women deliver large large babies. It's hard to even compute at moments when you see it but it happens.
Knowing that why are we ever thinking that disturbing or disrupting birth in any way can ever be good? It can't. That's the answer. It's that simple. BIRTH IS SAFE! INVENTION IS RISKY!! That's the fact, folks. Once, we tell a women what her birth should look like....or tell her that birth is a very scary experience.....or that she can't or shouldn't do it.....or that someone else knows better than her what her pregnancy and birth should look.....we COMPLETELY disempower women. Not only that but we pass on that sense of disempowerment onto future generations through the imprinting that is now on the newborn.
We have taken the very sacred process of pregnancy and birth out of the hands of the responsible and VERY capable parties (Mothers) and put that process into hands that should not have taken on a responsibility EVER. Teaching mothers to trust themselves and to trust the birth process is a opportunity like none other. To watch a mother feel empowered and peaceful in her pregnancy and birth experience brings such hope for the whole of humanity. It then teaches each infant that, they to, can trust themselves and their world around them....
Excellent article below. Just on how to disturb birth and mess it up in every way possible. Give it a read.
Since I've already been on the subject of epigenetics so much lately, I thought I'd stay in that vein and post more. Just wrote an article about it a week or so ago. You can read it below.
Delayed cord clamping. This subject seems to be on the up and up lately. I think it's really good that it is. I believe delayed cord clamping can truly give needed oxygen and nutrients that baby might not get from cutting the cord before pulsation stops.
Early cord clamping has no justifiable bases. No rationale. But most hospital struggle with rationale, in any regard, when it comes to birth. As the article below states, Dr. Jose Tolosa and colleagues write, “Although without clear benefit and no rationale to support it, early cord clamping remains the most common practice among obstetricians and midwives in the western hemisphere” (Tolosa et al. 2010).
I still remember right after my sister delivered her daughter, Regan, that Regan was screaming so hard, that is was painful to listen to. She has been lying in the warmer so I proceeded to walk over to pick her up and wrap her with the hopes of calming her down. As I approached Regan to get her, the nurse gave me the dirtiest look and started to question why I would even think it was ok for me to pick up the baby.
I went on to state that Regan was screaming so loudly it was painful for us and her. I stated that if I could wrap her up and give her to Mom, everyone in the room would be happy. Most importantly, the baby. The nurse went on to tell me that the baby had to reach a certain body temperature before I was able to take her out of the warmer. I argued the point that if I just was able to take the baby out of the warmer and wrap her in a blanket or even better yet, put her on my sister's chest covered in blankets......how could she not be warmer in that environment instead of the current one?
The nurse still fiercely disagreed with me. I decided it was time for someone in the room to use logic and love and I then swept my niece up, wrapped her tightly and handed her to my sister. The crying stopped immediately upon my even picking her up. Wow, who knew that picking up a baby and comforting them could stop crying and give comfort and peace to the baby? (Note the sarcasm here)
I only tell the story above to show a small example of how lack of logic can be seen in an hospital environment. For all of you who think I'm saying there is no logic used in the hospital, I'm not. So please don't get upset. I'm simply stating I believe their over use of technology is creating a situation where technology has become believed more than personal intuition. I find the latter being more true and believable than the former.
Read the articles below on delayed cord clamping. Watch the very educational video below on delayed cord clamping as well. I'm sure I've posted these before somewhere but I can find where.....so here they are again. :)
Let's talk about pitocin for a bit here. Pitocin is synthetic oxytocin. Oxytocin is the hormone that stimulates contractions within the uterus. Whether during orgasm or while delivering a child. Pitocin tries to simulate the same type of contraction that oxytocin does but, sadly, it cannot. Pitocin instead can make contractions erratic and MUCH stronger than the strength of each contraction stimulated with oxytocin.
Pitocin is also used when a hemorrhage is taking place. This is when pitocin can truly be a lifesaving drug. But....when pitocin is used in the wrong way and without the right reasons for use, then serious damage can be caused.
Please do your homework and know the facts about pitocin. Ask all the questions to know how or if it is truly safe for you and your baby. I believe a baby knows how long to gestate and when is the time for it's birth. Your fetus actually creates the hormones to stimulate your endocrine system to start producing oxytocin. I have seen Moms deliver babies at 43+ weeks. Of course, we always take precautions. We send them to doctors. We get ultrasounds, if need be to check fluid levels. We still do our homework. And if baby is, at all, in distress by all mean do what is necessary to help baby be born safely.
But.....if everything looks healthy and normal and good......why force a Mom to deliver her baby BEFORE that baby might even be ready, all in the name of litigation? That's the ONLY reason for the choice of induction if all looks well with Mom and baby. If we could help Moms see that the "seduction for induction" can be so subtle that unless they have educated themselves on all the risks of pitocin and choose to stand up for her and her baby, they will inevitably fall and have potential consequences they may not like.
Please read both articles below. Both are informative and can help you on your path to understanding pitocin and the pitfalls it can and does create in the birth experience. The second article is a personal story of a women's allergic reactions and negative response to pitocin.
By the way, EXCELLENT book on the subject of what pitocin really is. "Childbirth In The Age of Plastics" by Michel Odent. I've mentioned it before and I'm sure I will mention it again. Not a drug to help induce labor. It a hormone that replaces the bodies natural hormone production. We are giving women hormone placement. Nothing less. Now that's something to really think about and let roll about a bit.
Be empowered in your birth. Educate!
P.S. I almost forgot.....Just have your baby at home.
I wanted to discuss the article called "Top Fears Women Have With Childbirth" and put my 2 bits into it. I have discussed fear many times. Click on the links below to read a few articles that I've written on the subject. I believe fears are a HUGE factor as to how your birth experience takes place and exactly what happens.
Fear is truly the determinant as to whether your birth is horrible or even better, a beautiful blissful experience. Just like the photo above states, when women release fears and phobias surrounding birth they move out of their comfort zone. Once that movement takes place, they really can find "where the magic happens" in birth. Their whole perspectives can and do change once they feel safe within themselves, as pregnant women, and in the birth experience.
Click on the link below to read an excellent article on fears women carry in childbirth. I have posted below some of my comments to the article. The article is great, in and of itself, but I wanted to add my own perspectives because I'm they will create more of a thoughtfulness before making a concrete decision on how you might like your birth to do.
Let me know what you think. My hope is that women will reclaim their bodies and the birth process and know they, ultimately, are the ones in control and their feelings, beliefs, opinions and perspectives do matter.
I just recently returned from a trip to Colorado to visit my sister and to wait for the delivery of her son Grant. I absolutely adore in EVERY way watching and being part of my little sister's birth experiences.
With her first pregnancy and birth, she did quite a bit of preparation. (How could she not? She has an annoying midwife for a sister who was always bugging her about how to prepare.) She ate VERY well in both of her pregnancies. She exercised and even prepared her body BEFORE conceiving. She worked on emotional issues, though she struggled a bit to do so.
Thank you, Kim and Jeff. Thank you for letting me come and cry. Thank you for letting me share your home and feel the love each of you have for each other. Thank you for all of it! I will miss my Jane.....and wait patiently till I can see you all again.
The video below looks SUPER fun and like something I think everyone should support! I still remember the first time I saw Sergei, here in Utah, at a class him, his sister and their parents were teaching 12 years ago. It was my VERY first introduction to raw foods.
The dietary changes that Sergei and his sister, Valya, made at such a young age were inspiring. Both kids were still in elementary school when they choose, of their own free will, to stop eating all the s@*$ that was making them sick. They then started introducing organic, fresh, raw fruit and vegetables, grains, nuts and seeds.....and found the health and healing they were looking for.
Sergei is gifted at many things and I believe making this documentary would be one of them. If you click on his KICKSTARTER PAGE, you can scroll down to the end and see other videos he has made.
Not only do I believe this film he's making would be great because he's doing it but how even more AMAZING to make a film about green smoothies. Green smoothies are PHENOMENAL and have helped my personal health in a wide variety of ways. From helping to heal my Hashimoto's Thyroiditis to healing my bowels, to giving me the energy to function at an optimal level each and every day.
I advise all the Mom's I work with to incorporate green smoothies into their diets daily. The greens can give Mom and baby volumes of needed dense minerals to help with fetal growth. Just like I have discussed the imprinting that can take place on baby through emotional stresses and triggers placed on Mom, I also believe we create food imprints on our children. Babies will enjoy eating and have the physiological make up for whatever food Mom is eating and digesting in pregnancy.
So....if you want your babies to eat and LOVE green smoothies, then PLEASE drink them daily in your pregnancies and they will, I promise. I ate horrible diets with my first 2 kids and started changing to a healthier diet in my 3rd pregnancy. With my last 2 children, my diet was EXCEPTIONAL and the foods they now enjoy eating are the VERY same foods I ate while pregnant with them. It really does make a difference. Click on the link below to read more about my perspective on raw foods and nutrition during pregnancy.
Just found a GREAT article on Dr. Mercola's site. Though I'm not a big fan of his stuff, necessarily......I thought I'd pass along his article as most of the information really is educational and worth reading.
Education BEFORE conception can be vital for the health and well being of your baby. By taking care of your body thru making healthy lifestyle choices and by taking care of stresses and past wounding, a mom can truly prepare herself for conception. Preparation is a MUST as to not pass onto baby all our ill health or unwanted emotional baggage.
Lastly, a man having a baby! Well, he's not really having a baby, of course, but it shows is experience with a simulated process of what labor might feel or be like for a man. Watch and have a good laugh!
Let's discuss unassisted birth today....or FREE BIRTH as many people are calling it. I happen to be a midwife who actually SUPPORTS unassisted childbirth under the right circumstances. Yes, you read that right! I believe in a women's RIGHT TO CHOOSE how, when and where she delivers HER baby. Wow, in our day and age it's such a strange concept to let a women take ALL the responsibility and ALL of HER baby that she created WITHOUT the help of a professional. (Are you staring to really feel my passion on the subject?)
Birth is about PARENTS....mothers and fathers and babies. Not doctors or midwives. For some reason, we've got it all backwards. We think that without doctors and midwives that birth can't or won't or shouldn't happen the way it's supposed to. Yeah, that's totally wrong. I could go down the list of births which I have attended where I did almost NOTHING but help Mom and Dad catch their baby.
Now, I'm not an idiot either. I know complications in birth can and do happen. But....just like Gregory J. Whits states in his book "Emergency Childbirth" any 8 year old child can deliver a baby. I actually believe what he says. We have put SO MUCH FEAR into childbirth that we've convinced women their bodies and their babies are ill equipped to know how to deliver a child. This could be FARTHER from the truth.
I'm not saying either that pregnancy and childbirth doesn't have it's potential complications and problems. But, I believe when a women is taking FULL RESPONSIBILITY for herself, her conception, her pregnancy and her birth, complications are much less likely. Why do I say that, you ask? Because when a women feels that what happens in her pregnancy and birth is completely up to her, her perspectives of the experience and how to care for it completely change.
Laura Shanley discusses her experiences and the experiences of other women in her book.....UNASSISTED CHILDBIRTH.....and how preparation and education can create a wonderful and safe birth environment and experience. Below is a video with her explaining WHY unassisted childbirth can be safe and right for certain mothers and families.