We often hold in reserve those things we value most. We may do this with the quality we incorrectly identify as love. We say, “You love me, and then I’ll love you.” The other person says, “You love me, and then I’ll love you.” It’s a standoff. Then you say, “Well, I’ll love you a little bit and see how my love is returned.” When you do this, whether the love is returned or not, you find yourself feeling short on receiving. You think you’re long on the giving, but you’re just as short on the giving as you are on the receiving. Then you feel there just isn’t any justice.In reality, you can only receive what you are capable of giving.

~ John-Roger(From: The Way Out Book, p. 77)