Support From My Placenta Clients

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!  How lovely to get such kind words this morning! I'm so in love with what I do & here's part of why!  From a client who just posted this on FB:"I just go these cards in the mail from Rachel Shumway Talley. Placenta encapsulation was a complete game changer for me! Message me for info or this coupon. I'm not getting anything for this. I really just want others to experience how helpful it is, and this lady is the bomb.com!"

Thank you, Miranda! I'm beyond grateful for these AMAZING woman I get to meet & work with almost every day! I almost can't believe some days that THIS is what I get to do for my living. ? I'm feeling so wonderfully blessed! If your interested in getting some coupons from me, please contact me & I'd LOVE to ship you some. If your pregnant and interested in placenta encapsulation, I'll give you the coupon price for Halloween. 


Motherhood

A miracle is really the only way to describe motherhood and giving birth.  It's unbelievable how God has made us women and babies to endure and be able to do so much. A miracle, indeed.  Such an incredible blessing.-Jennie Finch

With all the difficulties, the heartache, the sorrow & pain, motherhood brings so much joy, bliss, happiness & fulfillment. I feel passionately it is the greatest work I have yet to do & may just be my greatest work I ever do. To have & bear & raise beautiful children. Whom I hope & pray will work to do their best to help make human kind & our world a happier, more peaceable place for all of us!

Have a HAPPY Friday!

Rachel


Great Love for our Children

greatlovequote"Every child should be nuture with great love. The feeling of great love promotes wellness and potential for greatness."

-Lailah Gifty Akita, Think Great, Be Great!

Mamas, love your little ones. Let them know they are worthy of love just because they are living, breathing human beings. Be gentle. Speak kindly. Love does truly open the hearts and minds of our babies to new ideas. New creations. That love will then be passed on to their children. With each generation, we create a more Christlike, wise people. THIS action alone can help to bring peace within each other and peace to our planet. Always remember: The hand that rocks the cradle (does most definitely) rule the world.


Newborn Needs

mamababychest"A newborn baby has only three demands. They are warmth in the arms of its mother, food from her breasts, and security in the knowledge of her presence. Breastfeeding satisfies all three." -Grantly Dick-Read

Breastfeed your sweet, tiny babies beautiful mamas! If you work at it, have faith in you & your baby that together you can DO IT, & stay strong without giving up, it'll be all WORTH IT! There is no other type of bond or connection or love that only breastfeeding can bring. Please contact me with any help or advice you might need. Your not alone! Please contact me if you need anything support or help to forward your progression of having a positive outcome.


Treating Jaundice Naturally

I had a placenta encapsulation client recently in need of how to help her baby with jaundice. Here it is, guys. 1️⃣st- Lots & lots of breastfeeding is BEST! This moves the bile from the liver through the bowels to be excreted. Every 2 hours isvitamind ideal if jaundice is already presenting itself. 2️⃣nd- These two supplements. One for Baby. One for Mama. Just to make sure we're meeting the demand for healing. Vitamin D helps to synthesize the bile. Hence, the reason when you take your baby to the doctor for jaundice, they put your baby under lights. The lights help the body create its own vitamin D through using the the largest organ in the body, the skin as the conductor. 3️⃣rd- Place baby only in diaper in sun filled window for 30 min to an hour at a time. Of course, move baby if they get too warm. The idea is for baby to absorb the vitamin D from the light not for baby to get too hot. Again, utilizing natural light is getting the same affect as unnatural lights like the hospital may place them under. I received a call from my client yesterday. Baby is doing GREAT & jaundice is cleared up after 48 hours! Easy cheesy people. 

 


The Birth Story Of Archer William Burnett

This is my clients birth story!  I'm so excited to share it with you all as its so empowering.  Her experience did not turn out the way she hoped though it was wonderful and glorious all the same.  Unfortunately, I missed the actual birth experience.  I was saddened by that though strengthened that this Mama and Daddy were prepared when the situation arose to handle it with God's grace. I am consistently in awe of the phenomenal Mama's that show up in my office and honored at the opportunity to help guide them through a very sacred experience.  I'm grateful that they listen and heed their own inner guidance and whatsoever help I might offer as well.
There are times and places that birth isn't what we'd hoped it would be.  Birth is inherently safe still and when properly prepared, supported and educated, we hope and prayer that the ease and safety of birth can be brought into her/our experiences.  I'm convinced this is what happened below.  I sure LOVE you Kylee, Paul, Jace and now little sweet Archer!  Thank you for the gift given me by my participation in your birth experience.  I loved it all!
In Peace,
Rachel
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*****Disclosure***** This is a birth story, so it will be graphic-ish. Don't expect cute and fluffy. It will be the raw, unedited real deal!

I have been wanting to get this story written down for some time, but due craziness of the entire story, it has taken me some time to process everything, and put it into words. Archer's birth story is unique and very empowering for me. Enough with the intro though. Lets start at the beginning... ish...
Imagine huge pregnant Kylee being a week over due. I was all sorts of miserable. No baby, feeling huge, trying so patiently to wait, and zero signs of baby coming any time soon. I asked my amazing friend and neighbor to do some foot zoning on me to help put me into labor. She came over on Friday, September 9th. She spent a couple hours working on me, and said that she felt like baby was close, but not quite ready yet, (but she also has a 48 hour "almost" guarantee to start labor). With that "almost guarantee" I figured Sunday would be the longest I would be pregnant. I certainly hoped anyway. Also, by this point, I had been losing pieces of mucus plug for the past 2 days, (for me this was weird, because with Jace I lost my plug while I was in labor. It all sort of happened at once). And to lose little pieces slowly was very different because I never knew quite how close I was to going into labor.
Saturday, September 10th I woke up feeling just as normal as ever. I remember being slightly bummed that no baby came because Sue had worked on me, and I definitely wasn't in labor. The morning went like most Saturday mornings usually do. Paul mowed the lawn while Jace and I picked the garden and pulled some weeds. We came inside and had some breakfast/lunch when I started noticing a few contractions. I couldn't quite tell if they were real or Braxton Hicks because I had had so many BH contractions throughout my pregnancy. But I could tell that they were slowly starting to become consistent so Paul and I started to track them. I also asked Sue if she had some time to come work on my feet again, (with hopes that it would keep things going and help it progress). Paul had me text our midwife, Rachel, and let her know about the contractions. I didn't really think that I needed to, because I didn't think I was in labor, but I ended up sending Rachel a text with a heads up. She definitely thought that I was in labor. I refused to believe it because I felt WAY to good to be in labor. I just remember feeling miserable and puking with Jace. But she still seemed to think so.
After we put Jace down for a nap, Sue came over to worked on my feet some more. I didn't really feel like contractions were picking up, (at this point they were inconsistently between 7 and 20 minutes apart but, but also not gaining any intensity), but they were definitely still going. We had a relaxing afternoon watching the office. I even tried to take a nap. 5:00 rolls around and still no baby.
Our neighbors were having a party to watch the BYU vs UofU game which we had said we would attend if baby hadn't arrived yet. So we figured we would just head over, (it was literally 2 houses away), and if we needed to leave to come have a baby it would be a piece of cake. Contractions still hadn't picked up so I figured that we would maybe have a midnight baby or early Sunday morning baby so I wasn't too worried about getting things set up. Paul thought that we should at least inflate the birthing pool before we left, (yes we planned to have our baby at home), but I shrugged it off and said we would have plenty of time when we got home to set it up.
The game starts and I'm still feeling same old same old. We have some snacks, and watch the game a little bit, but still no crazy increase in intensity or closeness of contractions. Rachel called and asked if anything had picked up. I said that it hadn't really picked up yet, (still thinking I'm not in labor). She suggested doing some movements to reposition the baby. She said he might just be mispositioned and thats why labor was somewhat stalled. I shared this information with my friend Meagan who suggested we go and do some rebozo to try to help coax babes into a better position. Meagan and I snuck away and walked back to her house to get her equipment, (by the way Meagan is an awesome doula so she is super knowledgeable about all of this stuff). Meagan had me lay on the floor almost in child's pose but with my butt sticking up in the air. I felt ridiculous, and I am sure I looked a little ridiculous as well, but she just pulled out her scarf and did her thing, and didn't even mention anything about how silly I felt. After about 10-15 ish minutes maybe less we decided to head back to the party.
All the while I was continuing to track contractions. Once we got back to the party I noticed that my contractions started picking up a little bit. It was half time at this point so I was thinking Paul would for sure get through the game before we needed to head home. Slowly over the next few hours my contractions started to get closer and closer together as well as grow in intensity. The app on my phone told me probably every 3 contractions that it was time to go to the hospital. I just chuckled and didn't think much about it because 1, I feel like people go to the hospital way to early and just wait around doing nothing, and 2, I wasn't going to the hospital so I only needed 5 minutes to get home and I was good to go.
All the wives were sitting in the kitchen chatting while our husbands were down the stairs watching the game. I remember sitting with the girls, just chatting, and then as soon as I felt a contraction come I would hit my timer. Then when the contraction would finish, I would hit my timer again. All the while just carrying on conversation and trying to keep myself distracted with what they were saying. As the football game progressed so did my contractions. Eventually they got to the point where I could not comfortably sit through a contraction, I needed to be standing up. This should have been my first sign that things were starting to progress. I think I was just recalling my labor with Jace, that even after contractions were close I was still pushing for several hours. I eventually texted my midwife to update her. I told her that they were getting more intense, and about 6 minutes apart. She said she would head out if I needed her, (she lives 40 minutes away). I replied that I wasn't sure, she would be a better judge if I was close enough or not. Rachel ended up calling me just after that text and told me that she would leave in about 10-15 minutes so as to arrive within an hour. At that moment I started having a contraction and continued to talk to Rachel on the phone through the contraction. She said, yeah, you should be fine, but I'll head out anyway.
Now keep in mind this whole time, I was waiting for the moment when I could not talk through a contraction and I had to just stop and focus and breathe. Meagan said that that would be a good indicator that I was getting close. So being able to talk on the phone through a contraction was me thinking that I still had plenty of time left before I would be in transition. Meagan and Kaylene, (my amazing friends), were so great to talk with me, and encourage me, and even massage my back occasionally during a contraction. (They were pretty much awesome). And we still waited for my contractions to be too intense.
The BYU game was basically over. Only 18 seconds left with no hope of BYU winning, so I told Paul that he needed to leave and go fill up the tub. I asked him to take Jace home with him and get the tub ready and I would be over. I started to collect my things and was headed out the door when I started to have another contraction. This time though, I started to feel a pressure as if I were just about ready to push. Not quite ready, but I certainly felt the pressure. I turned to say bye to my friends, then wobbled out the door. Halfway from Kaylene's house to mine I started having another contraction. Because of the pressure I had felt at Kaylene's I felt a sense of urgency to get home quickly, so I forced myself to walk through the contraction and get home. I came in the garage and headed down the stairs. I saw that Paul had the tub inflated and was in the process of filling it up. He was also frantically laying down plastic in the walk ways and such.
I walked myself straight to the bathroom where I proceeded to undress. I was seriously SOOO hot at Kaylene's so all I wanted to do was strip out of my layers so I wouldn't be so hot. I switched into my sports bra and put on some basketball shorts then walked out to see how the tub was coming. (I really wanted to be sitting in the tub instead of standing in the hall). It wasn't even half full yet and I felt the urge to push. Along with this though I just knew I was going to poop because I totally hadn't pooped all day, (even though I had been trying so I wouldn't need to in labor. Like that would ever happen though right!). I told Paul that I needed some tissues right away. He handed me about 5 and I pushed, (and pooped) and grossly, caught the plopper in the tissues and wobbled back to the bathroom to flush it down the toilet, (and try to get some more out). Squatting in the bathroom I felt the urge to push, and I don't even remember pushing it just sort of happened, then a big pop came, and a huge gush of warm liquid splashed all over the floor in the bathroom. I yelled to Paul that my water broke and asked him to text the midwife letting her know that my water broke. I also sent a text to my friend Meagan, who I had asked to kind of doula/be a birth photographer letting her know my water broke.
Paul ran in with Rachel on the phone, (he had texted her, and she called him back), telling Paul to get me off of the toilet and said be prepared because baby's head would probably start crowning soon, and obviously she wasn't going to make it to our birth in time. Paul pulled me up off the toilet, and held on to my legs because they were shaking like crazy. Right as Rachel said that baby would start crowning I said, "Paul, the baby is crowning."  Rachel heard and told Paul to reach his fingers up and make sure there was no umbilical cord around baby's neck. At this point Paul told Rachel that he needed to put her on speaker so he could use both hands. He set the phone down super fast, but before Paul could check and see if there was a cord around baby's neck, baby was sliding out and into Paul's arm. He was seriously holding me up with one arm and catching our baby with the other. Right after Paul caught babes, he looked and said, yeah, no cord around the neck. He quickly handed baby to me as our little guy took his first breaths and started crying. I was a little nervous at first because baby sounded gargly like there was a little bit of liquid in his lungs, but he was pink, and breathing, and I just felt really peaceful like everything was ok, so I stopped worrying and tried to take in the moment. I was also a little worried about hemorrhaging especially without a midwife there. But again, that peacefulness came over me and I didn't worry about it anymore.
Ok, so keep in mind, that all of the above paragraph happened within a matter of minutes. Seconds almost. I have played it over and over in my head and it seems like it happened within the blink of an eye. Really it wasn't that fast, but seriously, two pushes basically and my baby was here. Now, Jace had rushed back to the bathroom with Paul, not sure of what was going on. He ended up getting to watch the birth of his brother. I hadn't fully decided if I wanted Jace there or not, but I guess there were other plans that had decided that he was going to be there. I hope he wasn't traumatized, but he seems ok right now.
After Paul handed me baby, Rachel told him that I needed to lay or sit down and wait. Paul ran out of the room with Jace, took Jace upstairs to our sister in law, (who so graciously saved the day and watched Jace for the next 30-60 minutes), also yelled at Jess to turn the hose off upstairs because the pool was now about to overflow, and then rushed back to me in the bathroom carrying loads of towels. He gave me one to wrap around baby, (I was worried that he was going to be too cold), and put the rest on the floor to try and mop up the blood that was EVERYWHERE. Seriously, guys, white linoleum floors make red blood look really red! (thankfully I cleaned and disinfected the bathroom a few days ago on a whim). So here I am, laying on towels, my legs covered in blood, waiting for the midwives to show up. Paul is running back and forth trying to get everything sorted out (bless his heart), and baby and I are just chilling. I remember sitting there in disbelief that all of this had taken place so fast.
Rachel's backup midwife, and apprentice showed up about 15 minutes after the birth. They started cleaning up some things, and checked me and baby to make sure that we were good, then set to work doing some more cleanup. I still hadn't delivered my placenta yet, nor had I felt the urge to push it out, so we were just chilling. 5-10 minutes later Rachel showed up. They pushed on my stomach to try to convince my uterus to contract and push out the placenta, but still nothing happened, then Rachel said, oh, its just sitting right here, give me a quick push Kylee. So as weird as it felt, I pushed, and out slid the placenta. Paul got to cut the cord which had long stopped pulsing at this point, and baby was free! I passed him off to Paul for a minute while the midwives stood me up and tried to clean up some of the blood that was coating my legs. I had wanted to take a shower, but there was no hot water left from filling up the tub, and they had already drained the tub so I couldn't get in it to rinse off. So I had a wet wipe bath for the time being.
They got me cleaned up and walked me to my bed where I got to snuggle it up with cute babes. Paul brought Jace down to meet his baby brother, and we all spent a few minutes together just cuddling and snuggling. Then Paul took Jace and put him to bed. I was worried that with all the people and the commotion he wouldn't want to sleep, but he went down without a fuss, so that was really nice. I think the fact that he had spent the previous 4 hours running around with his friends, then got to bed 2 hours late really helped.
Our baby was born at 9:38 pm. Not even joking you, he came 10 minutes or less after I got home from Kaylene's house. While I was 10 days over I fully expected to have a bigger sized babe. But our sweet boy weighed in at 7 lbs. 3 oz. It took Paul and me a good 12 hours to decide on a name for him. We had narrowed it down to 3, then to 2, and I felt like he could be named either, and I liked both equally. After prayer and thought, we decided on Archer. Archer William Burnett. William is a family name on my side of the family, and Paul's as well. We chose Archer because of the meaning behind it.  Archer means just that, a bowman. Someone who uses a bow and arrow. Even though Archer is going to be a younger brother I feel like his personality is going to be more of a protector, which, an archer would use his bow to protect. I also felt the connection to Nephi in the Book of Mormon, and the faithfulness that he had, despite his bow being broken, he was still able to provide for his family. It is hard to put in words the connection I felt to Archer's name, but there is my best effort. :)
As I have pondered about our experience it has gone from a crazy whirlwind of emotion and memories,  to a spiritual and empowering experience for me. My biggest fear when asking Rachel to be my midwife was that she would not be there to attend my birth. It just worried me that she was so far away. But I also felt really good about choosing her to be our midwife. So despite my fears, we made the decision to choose her. I know, that while Rachel wasn't there for our birth, Paul and I were not alone in that bathroom. We had so many experienced hands helping us bring our sweet boy into the world. Even though they could not be seen, I know that they were there, each doing their part to keep me steady and on my feet,  directing Paul's hands where they needed to be, holding onto Jace while he stood there watching, and safely guiding baby here. I feel empowered because I know that I can do hard things. I am strong. And even though society thinks that women are inferior, I know we are not. Not that I would choose to deliver my next baby the same way we delivered Archer, I am so grateful for the acknowledgements I was able to make because of it.

These were the best pics we got of the night Archer was born. Jace looks so tired in this picture! But he was happy to hold his little brother. Poor Archer still has some blood on his head that hadn't been cleaned off quite yet.
My sweet sweet boys! and look at me in the comfort of my own bed!!
I see this picture and it reminds me that I don't have to be a "hot mess" to have a baby. Yes I don't look all dolled up or anything, but I don't look like what society thinks a mom looks like after they just have a baby.
My sweet hubby holding our cute Archer. I told him that Skin to skin was the best thing, so I mad him take his shirt off. :)

The Emily Effect-Postpartum Depression

https://youtu.be/0xQexfBQ8Vs

If you haven't heard about this, you need to! It's beyond heartbreaking! You can read the whole article on KSL by clicking on the highlighted link: THE EMILY EFFECT

My heart and mind have been reeling over this since I heard about it yesterday afternoon.  As someone who has experienced, explored and educated myself on all things birth related for the past 20 years, postpartum depression has now become a subject that MUST be discussed, focused on, looked at and supported so something like this never happens again.

I accept that this sweet, beautiful mother had no intention of killing herself when she disoriently strolled onto the freeway.  What went wrong?  Why did this have to happen?  Maybe it was no accident.  Maybe Emily was one who unknowingly sacrificed herself to help and aid all the other woman who struggle living within their own heads and bodies entrenched in a hell even themselves can't express.

I may not know postpartum depression like some mothers do though I do know severe depression and the intense hold it can have on anyone.  I come from a long line of depressed woman and of course, have felt the depths of pain, confusion, terror, panic sorrow, shame and the list goes on, that depression brings with it. I have dealt with my own sense of postpartum depression with each of my babies which leads me to feel I can relate to those suffering. I also accept  I might never know the whole of the sensations that come with it.  Yet, I deeply long to uplift and change what is currently taking place in the hearts and minds of these tormented women.

I am fiercely intent that I will do my part to help, support, uplift and educate woman through all the ups and downs, ins and outs that come with conception, pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum care.  I don't know the reasons this happened to Emily and her family.  What I do know is Emily's story has now opened another doorway for all woman silently suffering from PPD to feel they are not alone.  There are many who have seen your pain and anguish and long to help!

As stated in the video above, my experience and research tells me that Emily's particular situation might not have been caused by PPD but by PTSD.  That's right, folks.  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder!  As also stated above, Emily's husband points out that she had a very difficult birth.  I know it may be hard for some to believe but PTSD stimulated during birth is REAL!!  The actions of others, unexpected birth experiences, complications, c-sections, etc.  All of these things can play a part into the psyche of each woman during her birthing process.

Postpartummamas

When we birth, we open a door into the mysterious and unknown that is universal in all woman.  This is a vulnerable state like no other.  I am convinced birth invites a whole body and mind experience where a woman is at her most open, raw, and intensely vulnerable.  Unfortunately, this is taken advantage of on a daily basis by all kinds of care providers.  My experience has shown me we do see it mostly in hospital with doctors and nurses.

While I appreciate these care providers are doing what they have been taught and what they think is best for Mama and baby.  I'm not convinced choices and actions are made in a state where the emotional and spiritual components of birth are highly considered.  Doctors and nurses are knowledgeable and have been taught about the physical mechanics of birth though I see little if any consideration for the emotional, psychological, or even spiritual actions that birth inherently brings with it.  You can't change that.  A woman's birthing experience can be for good or to her detriment dependent on only 3 things: 1)Who she chooses as her care provider. 2) How much or how little education she has on all aspects of childbearing. 3)The needed support of mother, family and friends to help her create the right birth experience for her.

Its really that simple and yet not that simple.  We have so many differing voices on so many differing subjects when it comes to birth.  I do know that there are answers to these sorts of problems.  This is just the beginning of more posts to come of the negative and positive effects of how and where we birth.  I'll save those for later then.

What is just one of the answers that might of helped Emily?  Placenta encapsulation.  I don't mean to sound trite or simple since her problem seemed more complex. Placenta encapsulation is THAT powerful, THAT beneficial and THAT effective. I do believe this is something that could of changed Emily's outcome.

Lots of research is going into placenta encapsulation right now.  My 8 years experience of encapsulating placentas has only taught me that its a MUST for every postpartum mama!  Placenta ingestion truly IS the first step to creating a balanced, happy and peaceful postpartum time.  The many wonderful positive effects I have seen with the hundreds of placentas I have encapsulated leaves me passionately believing it is truly a gift from above to help mamas and babies bond, heal, recover and connect. My logic tells me its natural and normal to give mamas back what was lost during pregnancy and birth and that is done through placenta encapsulation. This, in itself, does more good than we know.  Jump on over to my product site at shop.livingmombirth.com to find out more. Watch the testimonial on my placenta encapsulation page on how it might help you too!

In Peace, Rachel

Lastly, TO EMILY's FAMILY:

Our hearts and prayers are with you during this time.  We are so sorry for your loss yet so grateful for your efforts with The Emily Effect to help others know of her story.  Wherever you are, we LOVE you Emily!

 


An Unnecessary Cut-3 Solutions to Support a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean)

You can find the link to the article and video by clicking below:

An Unnecessary Cut

Let’s talk about c-sections. VBAC’s in particular. Here’s what we know: The c-section rate has escalated in the last 40 years from a lowly 5% to our current 32%. This means 1 out of every 3 woman are getting their babies surgically removed from their bodies. All the while costing 50% more for each c-section in comparison to a vaginal birth. How did we get here? What has taken place to lead us to this point? Some of those questions are answered in the documentary above.
Real operation for cesarean section with new born infant in operating theater.
Real operation for cesarean section with new born infant in operating theater.

I’d like to take the opportunity to discuss why VBAC’s aren’t more prevalent among our nations birthing mamas?
First, what is a VBAC? Vaginal Birth After Delivery. Which means…..you have 1 baby, most likely your first baby, via c-section your likelihood of having another c-section delivery goes up by 90%. WHAT? I almost couldn’t believe this statistic. That means only 10% of woman after giving birth surgery go on to have a normal vaginal birth. Why is this happening? What is taking place in our current society that we are labeling c-section woman to the mantra of “Once a c-section, always a c-section.”
I’d like to be clear that I believe c-sections to be very needed at times and a lifesaving mechanism that can help a mama and baby in crisis deliver healthily and safely. The largest concern I have over this matter is with the rate of c-sections and truly weighing the options of who really needs that c-section and who doesn’t.
Here’s 3 of the main problems that I can see that are preventing women from having a vaginal birth after a c-section. I must add here that I believe EVERY woman chooses her birthing options mostly based in what she believes will be safest for her and her baby. What she is taught and educated upon particularly by health care providers, carries the BIGGEST weight on what options she will inevitably choose. To be clear, I don’t believe any woman would choose a birthing option that might harm her or her baby.
  1. Because of the mantra “once a c-section, always a c-section, woman are placed into a space where understanding they have options or choices is lost. This belief has seeped into her psyche in such a way that it can feel almost impossible to let herself believe otherwise. This type of thinking is a common social fallacy that is currently being passed from woman to woman through all forms of professional or otherwise relationships. She can believe it so concretely that she struggles to let herself even consider a VBAC, especially when she believes the risks of a vaginal birth now outweigh the risks of a c-section.
  2. I think it’s almost near impossible to find a medical care provider that will support a woman’s choice to have a VBAC. There are potential liability issues at stake for each doctor or obstetrician. I believe every care provider entered their profession with the intention to care for the safety needs of every delivering mama and baby. Unfortunately, we tend to live in a very sue happy nation and for a doctor, I can only imagine the demands placed on them to not make a mistake. There quickly can become a very fine line between what the recommended protocol is to follow and what actually might be best for mama and baby. Let me tell you, I wouldn’t want to have to make that choice.
  3. Most often, once a woman has had a c-section, especially an “emergency c-section” (which is 98% of the time) she is left with an experience that can feel mild to severely traumatizing. Often woman leave the hospital carrying the weight of a broken heart and broken body that couldn’t afford them the birth they truly longed and hoped for. These physical, psychological and emotional wounds can bind a woman to the same future birthing fate only to have the pattern repeated until she is told by her care provider her body is officially broken and can no longer handle major surgery for delivery. Even if she wanted more children, that option is no longer viable. The psychological/emotional aspects that aren’t professionally and properly dealt with can leave lifelong scars.
With all this being said, how does a woman find the education and support to follow through with a VBAC? Here’s 3 solutions to those problems.
  1. The internet can be a great resource for educational materials about c-section, the emergency benefits and the risks. The website www.childbirthconnection.org has a wealth of current research, resources and educational materials. There are written sources as well. One book called “Cut, Stapled and Mended” written by Roanna Rosewood speaks of her travails after her c-section and how she went on to accomplish her goal of a VBAC. Educate yourself on your options after a c-section. Know the risks and benefits. Make an informed decision that will ultimately give you the birth experience you are wanting.
  2. I’m a firm believer in doctors and obstetricians and their ability to save the lives of mamas and babies. What a blessing! Though why not consider the option of a midwife? Midwives have comparable safety outcomes when it comes to VBAC’s. Midwives approach and philosophy of birth also feeds the understanding and empathy a post c-section mama might need to work through the trauma of her previous birth experience while giving the physical means and knowledge to help prepare her body for a safe VBAC. OR if you feel a midwife is not for you, find a doctor who will really listen to your desires while striving to work with you. Know the questions to ask your doctor in order to feel safe and comfortable enough to make the needed requests for your birth. Stick to your guns and don’t let down until your find the RIGHT person for YOU!! Always remember Rachel’s birth mantra…….”You do not work for your care provider, your care provider works for YOU!!” You pay the big bucks to have the birth that you want. Without education, you are doomed to be disempowered to repeat the same situation. Your voice matters, SPEAK UP!
  3. Just get a doula!! What is a doula? If you still don’t know, it’s time to enter 2016. ;) Google it! This is the NEW revolutionary way to give birth that has been around for 100’s of years until it’s crept back from almost extinction recently. A doula is a person, most often a woman, (I’ve actually never met a male doula) who helps a laboring woman achieve her birth goals. Doulas are taught and trained to foster, educate and empower a woman and/or couple to give comfort measures and labor support throughout pregnancy, labor/delivery and postpartum care. A ACOG report from March 2014 states, “Published data indicate that one of the most effective tools to improve labor and delivery outcomes is the continuous presence of support personnel, such as a doula.”

 


You Are Already Perfect-Just As You Are

Accepting our perfection and divinity is part of our path to healing and happiness.  Watch below.  Have an AMAZING weekend! Be LOVE...... for that is all you already are!!

https://youtu.be/vMeEKBaiPbg


The Healing Benefits of Blessing Ways

A blessingway in progess

Today I wanted to talk about blessing ways and how they can be used, not only in pregnancy, but at any transformation and transition time in your life. A BLESSING WAY is a Native American ceremony that has been used as a safe space for healing and celebrating the coming of a new life.

During this sacred ceremony, a mother with the support of friends and family, can open herself to the challenges and joys that lie before her as she approaches birthing and mothering. In this setting, the mother-to-be can gain the confidence, power and love she needs to move forward in her new role with peace and understanding.

Pregnancy is a birth and cleansing time where all physical and emotional toxicity are being purged from the system so as to not pass any unwanted or unneeded ill health onto your fetus. A blessingway moves and shifts a woman’s energy in such a profound way that she feels a draw to listen more to herself and her own intuition in the future weeks before the birth and the months that follow after. By listening to her own inner knowing, she then is guided through the steps to create a beautiful pregnancy and birth experience.

You don’t have to be a Native American to be able to hold a blessingway for you or a loved one. The ceremony, in and of itself, is designed is a very meaningful and fulfilling experience for the mother to be while respecting her own personal beliefs.

Blessingways truly are a transformative experience where one communes with the Divine within and outside of themselves. Each women gleans new insights and inspirations from the experience that can bring more happiness and bliss to her life.

Click the link below to read more about blessing ways outside the birth arena.

Below is another article about The Birth Ritual of the Hopi Indians.  It's a beautiful story.  Take the time to read it.

I believe the lack of ritual and ceremony regarding conception, pregnancy and birth is currently negatively affecting our future generations.  With ritual and ceremony, we find a place where one feels supported and loved along with finding healing and hope.  These opportunities to unite friends and family as we change, grow and progress in our world can be invaluable to our own health and happiness and integration of the changes we are making.

My blessing way with my Mabel, 4 years ago, was one of my most memorable experiences.  It was an atmosphere where I felt, though bringing into our family this new little life was a bit scary,  that I was supported by all and was shown how powerful I really am through that love, compassion and understanding.  Click the link below to read more about my blessing way.

Lastly, below is a book which is all about blessing ways and a CD with some healing, beautiful music for your blessing way.

In Peace,
Rachel

A Book About Blessing ways!
Songs for your Blessing Way!

 


Birth or ANY Trauma (for that matter): It CAN Be Healed

Trauma is a subject you'll find I talk a lot about on here.  Birth trauma can set the stage for how we choose to perceive and integrate love in our world.  We all come here longing to be and experience love while in a physical body.  Whatever we feel during gestation and then at the time of birth and onto the first weeks, months and years of our lives, imprints and distills itself into our systems as love.  Though in actuality, we soon learn as adults that the traumas we felt as children weren't love at all but rather perspectives and ideas we carry about us and the world around us.

Once the system recognizes that the traumatic sensations and feelings are not really love, our system then sets out to feel and understand love.  It the proceeds to replay the same patterns over and over again.  It does this so we can have trigger points to stimulate those untrue thought patterns of what we've been taught love looks like and dispel the lies that we carry that are no longer serving us.

Long ago, when I saw how I was replaying life patterns over and over again, even though I was surprised each and every time because those life's lessons can feel VERY hard at times, I wanted to know if I could heal the pain that I was carrying.  I have worked in the emotional/energy healing world for 12 years now and found rather quickly in my search that, yes indeed, you could heal EVERYTHING!

Most people don't want to buy that belief.  It's ok....they don't have to.  I like believing that I have the ability to help heal not only my physical body but my emotional/psychological body as well.  I knew I had many traumatic experiences as I child that I needed healing from and felt ECSTATIC when I realized that I could heal anything within myself that I wanted.  What an empowering thought for me!

I starting doing several things to help in my healing.....going to retreats, sitting in ceremonies, working with medicine men and shaman, reading and educating myself on the REAL benefits of alternative healing.  I was shocked.....really, to begin with.  I thought so much of what was being done back then was just strange and abnormal.  I quickly learned that the effects of loving yourself enough to try and heal......that not only did you release and let go of old baggage.......but I found new and deeper levels of understanding, insights and peace I'd never felt before.  It was and still is a mind blowing yet subtly magnificent way to find wholeness.

Read the article below so as to understand the emotional/sensational process a fetus might go through in the birth process.....And read about one women's experience to help heal herself from her own birth trauma.

"Recently I had encountered a spiritual talk on Spiritual Rebirther called Minood. A very interesting topic as it relates to birth. Though I did not sign up for the workshop. Later found out from a lady who attended the rebirth session...."

Another great article below which shows the link between emotional traumas and physical ailments.  Please READ!

Scientific Proof that Your Childhood Traumas are a MAJOR Factor in Your All Your Illnesses

"The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study is an ongoing research project which is perhaps the largest scientific research study of its kind. Its purpose it to analyze the relationship...." 

I have spent the last 10 years working out my own traumas, whether birth related or otherwise, and I have helped many others heal themselves from their own pain as well.  You can read more about EMOTIONAL HEALING on my page.

Also, I will be putting together a rebirthing ceremony, along with a breath work ceremony, sometimes in the next month or so.  I will be posting it on my website so check back!  You might want to consider joining us in a healing retreat that is happening in just 2 weeks. You can read more about it at SHIFTINGTOSOLACE. It will be quite the AMAZING experience for all involved.  I have no doubt.  Read the information below for more details.

In Peace,
Rachel

 


Science Shows Vitamin D May Help Prevent MS In Newborn

I'm a big fan of sunbathing.  I always have been.  I believe the sun and the nutrients it provides the body are very needed.  Vitamin D specifically is a VERY needed nutrient for the human body.  Our main source of Vitamin D is from the sun.  But.....there are other ways you can get Vitamin D as well.  I'll talk about that below.

First read the article below.  It discusses how having your baby certain months out of the year lowers their risk of MS.  As they researched it more, they realized that higher levels of Vitamin D in pregnancy help to prevent gene shifts toward MS tendencies.  

Month of Birth Impacts Immune System Development

"Newborn babies' immune system development and levels of vitamin D have been found to vary according to their month of birth, according to new research."

Because we live in a state where the sun isn't always shining, I've found a Vitamin D3 supplement during pregnancy can help to thwart any potential Vit. D deficiency during pregnancy.  I'm also a fan of getting out in the sun in a nice bikini even when it's cold outside but the sun is shining.  You actually get two wonderful things happening by your doing that.  First, your, of course, getting the Vitamin D from the sun.  And second, your immune system is getting stronger by the cold against your skin and body.  In fact, in Russia, pregnancy women will swim in freezing cold water to boost and build their immune system for themselves and their babies.  Watch the video below.....

For the Vitamin D supplement that I think is the best on the market......Click on the "img" below the image to understand more about Vitamin D and it's AMAZING health benefits.  
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In Peace,

Rachel


Ways To Make Birth Harder in EVERY Way Possible

I am a huge proponent of complete undisturbed birth.  In leaving birth alone.  In stepping back and just letting and watching the process unfold.  In leaving the mother BE! In giving her the ability to trust her in systems and psyches own abilities to birth in utter bliss and trust the same in her baby.

I believe in Moms.  I believe in babies.  What I do not believe in is the systems or peoples that in any way tells a women how, when and where is best for her to birth her baby.  To think that we have any right to do so is ignorant and destructive in many forms.

A woman's body is built to have a child. Babies bodies are built perfectly for birth. I know, we have all kinds of doctors and specialists stating that some women just CAN'T have babies via the vaginal route.  I don't buy it.  I've seen too much.  I've seen tiny tiny women deliver large large babies.  It's hard to even compute at moments when you see it but it happens.

Knowing that why are we ever thinking that disturbing or disrupting birth in any way can ever be good?  It can't.  That's the answer.  It's that simple.  BIRTH IS SAFE!  INVENTION IS RISKY!! That's the fact, folks.  Once, we tell a women what her birth should look like....or tell her that birth is a very scary experience.....or that she can't or shouldn't do it.....or that someone else knows better than her what her pregnancy and birth should look.....we COMPLETELY disempower women.  Not only that but we pass on that sense of disempowerment onto future generations through the imprinting that is now on the newborn.

We have taken the very sacred process of pregnancy and birth out of the hands of the responsible and VERY capable parties (Mothers) and put that process into hands that should not have taken on a responsibility EVER.  Teaching mothers to trust themselves and to trust the birth process is a opportunity like none other.  To watch a mother feel empowered and peaceful in her pregnancy and birth experience brings such hope for the whole of humanity.  It then teaches each infant that, they to, can trust themselves and their world around them....

Excellent article below.  Just on how to disturb birth and mess it up in every way possible.  Give it a read.

6 Ways to Make Child Birth Longer, More Difficult, and More Painful

"Here are top 6 ways to make birthing more difficult.  If you are accompanying a woman in a birth coming up be sure NOT to do these things.  If you are a pregnant woman make sure you don’t go to a place where these ways are the norm when assisting a birthing woman – unless you want a longer, more difficult and more painful birth:"
In Peace, Rachel

C-Section Trauma at Birth Can Last A Life Time

 

Since I've already been on the subject of epigenetics so much lately, I thought I'd stay in that vein and post more.  Just wrote an article about it a week or so ago.  You can read it below.

Can You Change Old Negative Belief Patterns to Help Your Baby Change The World?

After you read that article, you should have a better idea of epigenetics and how they work.  Or to learn more.....read the article below I posted a bit back.
It's exciting to think that now we see the long term effects of imprinting and epigenetics in the world of cesarean sections.  I work with people to help facilitate emotional healing.  I have found there are dozens of emotional triggers and traumas surrounding their birth experience because of being born by c-section, than just working with a client with "normal" birth trauma.
From my experience, one common psychological trigger that adults born c-section have is a need to control their world beyond a balanced way.  They tend to feel out of control regularly and often wonder why since they can't see a logical, foreseeable reason why they would feel that way.
Read the article below to learn more about how c-section are effecting life long emotional and physical health.
"Despite the increase in surgical intervention at birth, we don't know the effect on the baby, writes Hannah Dahlen

The increasing use of obstetric interventions during birth could be having an impact on children's health. Photo / Supplied
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The increasing use of obstetric interventions during birth could be having an impact on children's health. Photo / Supplied
Despite efforts to reduce intervention rates during labour, vaginal births without medical intervention are becoming increasingly rare in Australia and overseas: nearly one in four births in New Zealand are by caesarean..."
To learn and understand more about how you can heal from trauma from you birth experience, read my EMOTIONAL HEALING page.
In Peace,
Rachel

Early Cord Clamping- It's Illogical and Irrational: Here's Why

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Delayed cord clamping.  This subject seems to be on the up and up lately.  I think it's really good that it is.  I believe delayed cord clamping can truly give needed oxygen and nutrients that baby might not get from cutting the cord before pulsation stops.

Early cord clamping has no justifiable bases.  No rationale.  But most hospital struggle with rationale, in any regard, when it comes to birth.  As the article below states, Dr. Jose Tolosa and colleagues write, “Although without clear benefit and no rationale to support it, early cord clamping remains the most common practice among obstetricians and midwives in the western hemisphere” (Tolosa et al. 2010).

I still remember right after my sister delivered her daughter, Regan, that Regan was screaming so hard, that is was painful to listen to.  She has been lying in the warmer so I proceeded to walk over to pick her up and wrap her with the hopes of calming her down.  As I approached Regan to get her, the nurse gave me the dirtiest look and started to question why I would even think it was ok for me to pick up the baby.

I went on to state that Regan was screaming so loudly it was painful for us and her.  I stated that if I could wrap her up and give her to Mom, everyone in the room would be happy.  Most importantly, the baby.  The nurse went on to tell me that the baby had to reach a certain body temperature before I was able to take her out of the warmer.  I argued the point that if I just was able to take the baby out of the warmer and wrap her in a blanket or even better yet, put her on my sister's chest covered in blankets......how could she not be warmer in that environment instead of the current one?

The nurse still fiercely disagreed with me.  I decided it was time for someone in the room to use logic and love and I then swept my niece up, wrapped her tightly and handed her to my sister.  The crying stopped immediately upon my even picking her up.  Wow, who knew that picking up a baby and comforting them could stop crying and give comfort and peace to the baby?  (Note the sarcasm here)

I only tell the story above to show a small example of how lack of logic can be seen in an hospital environment.  For all of you who think I'm saying there is no logic used in the hospital, I'm not.  So please don't get upset.  I'm simply stating I believe their over use of technology is creating a situation where technology has become believed more than personal intuition.  I find the latter being more true and believable than the former.

Read the articles below on delayed cord clamping.  Watch the very educational video below on delayed cord clamping as well.  I'm sure I've posted these before somewhere but I can find where.....so here they are again.  :)

Delayed Cord Clamping: An all of human history practice (20th century exempted)

"There are many things that help our children to be as healthy as possible during their first minutes, hours, days, months and years. If the findings of some new research are correct, then ensuring that our babies get their full volume of blood as they are born might be one of the more important steps we can take for the well-being of our children."


Below is a story of a natural hospital waterbirth with delayed cord clamping.  Here's what your birth can look like in a hospital that uses logic and science.  

"I had been having pre-labour pains and contractions since 37 weeks, so by the time Arya’s due date rolled around, I was well and truly ready to have her."

First, Penny Simpkin explaining the physical aspects of delayed cord clamping and why to do it with your baby.  



LOVE Robin Lim.  Amazing midwife and sister to many.  :)  Listen to her share about delayed cord clamping. 



In Peace,
Rachel